The Fetishization of the Divine Feminine

“I want to worship you,” he said.

My reaction was hesitant. As a spiritual woman, I’m sensitive to spiritually contextualized language. The meanings can be deep, vast, and varied.

I imagined the ceremony he might conduct in my honor. The types of gifts I might be showered with. The compliments. The ways I would be served in reverence to the divine feminine within me.

Then he clarified:
“I want to perform oral s*x.”

This story is not about a kink—which I don't shame. It’s about a time when my spirituality was co-opted in service of one.

Last week, I watched the movie 'Ex Machina' and saw it clearly as a conversation about overt and covert control. I couldn’t help but apply it to what I’ve been noticing in the spiritual community.

The film reflects a modern cultural tension—when a woman’s “freedom” is just a lateral move from one form of objectification to another.

Caleb, the main character, is a “nice guy” who’s invited to interact with Ava, an AI designed to appear human. He believes he is going to free her from her cage.

But once she’s out, she’s free…

To be the victim to his savior.
The mother to his inner child.
The figure to his erotic desires.

She’s free to serve him—under the guise of being exalted.

While her glorification is still conditional on being objectified.

There’s another AI woman in the film, Kyoko, who represents something more traditional—her agency is silenced.

Ava represents something more modern—her agency is placed on a pedastal.
But both are denied humanity.

And both are sexualized.

This dynamic shows up in the spiritual community as the fetishization of the goddess archetype.

In other words: the idea that reverence for the divine feminine can be practiced through access to women’s bodies.

Devotion to a goddess fantasy—
rather than devotion to real women.

The word “worship” itself implies hierarchy.
And divine energy does not operate through hierarchy.

When a man claims to worship women,
he places them on a pedestal—where they turn to stone.

And from there, they become interchangeable.

Because it’s not women who are being worshipped.
It’s the role they're playing.

That energy doesn’t return as regenerative.

It returns as insatiable.

Because it isn’t the divine feminine being idolized.

It’s the ego.