I am currently writing a book that maps the modern relationship landscape—from exhaustion, exploitation, and collapse, back into sovereignty.
This book will deconstruct systemic patriarchy, the polyamorous/open pendulum swing, spiritualized manipulation, and the growing recoil toward celibacy, ultimately presenting blueprints for conscious singlehood and intentional monogamy.
I am gathering anonymous “field reports" to be published in this book or future media. In order to platform the quieter voices in this landscape, I ask that submissions be kept relevant to the prompts below.
Stories of Romanticized Harm, Coercion, and the Reclamation of Sovereignty
The Origin Vault
This vault is open to all—women, men, and queer individuals.
The Instructions:
Length: About 300 to 800 words (or 3 to 7 paragraphs).
Focus: Distill your experience to the core mechanics of what happened, how your body felt, or how you found your peace.
Resolution Not Required: Your story does not need to have a neat, happy, or "empowering" ending. If you are still in the messy middle of your grief, or if the dynamic ended in unresolved exhaustion, that truth is exactly what is needed. Please do not feel pressured to wrap your experience in a silver lining.
Prompt Questions to Guide You (Choose the theme that aligns with your story):
Patriarchal Dynamics: Did you grow up in a household that was traditionally patriarchal? How did that upbringing impact your romantic relationships?
The Poly Pendulum: Have you ever participated in a polyamorous or open relationship under interpersonal or social pressure? Did you burn out from polyamory or the general dating scene? Looking back, what has restructured within you, and what have you gained or lost in the shift?
Spiritualized Manipulation: Were you ever manipulated by someone using "therapy-speak" (e.g., boundaries, "doing the work") or spiritual concepts to justify their avoidance, nonchalance, or abuse?
The Male Experience: (For men submitting) How has the modern dating matrix, or spiritualized hook-up culture, impacted your emotional or psychological well-being?
Queer Dynamics: Has being queer uniquely affected your journey in decentering romantic relationships or navigating coercive dynamics?
Conscious Singlehood & Self-Love: What did the transition into "conscious singlehood" look like for you? How did your life change when you stopped seeking outward and re-oriented inward? Has loving other people ever stood in the way of you loving yourself, and how have you found self-love now?
Conscious Monogamy: Have you built a choice-based, intentional, and communicative monogamous relationship after walking through the fire? What does that union look like in practice?